Transforming our triggers will free us from reacting to other people’s inappropriate comments. We might still be annoyed, but we’ll get our power back, we won’t be dragged down to their level. A trigger is activated inside of us and we feel we have to protect ourselves. We sometimes blame, criticise or can even attack the person who offended us. The more we practice and transform our emotional triggers, the more emotionally free we will be. Healing unwanted habits is not always easy, especially if we’ve been hurt in the past and these inappropriate comments bring up hidden memories [...]

Something happened to me recently that reminded me of the importance of the 5 Languages of Love – and it got me thinking about how a lack of the right kind of love manifests itself and what you can do about it. Let me explain…. Since starting up my business, I have wanted to be featured in Muddy Stilettos (muddystilettos.co.uk), a brilliant local guide that started as a fantastic blog covering Buckinghamshire and Oxfordshire, and that has now grown into a multi-territory UK franchise. When Hero, the editor, agreed to have a treatment with me to then write a review [...]

Feeling stuck in a rut is overwhelming, confusing, draining and extremely stressful.  Sometimes its hard to imagine how we will ever get out of it. The human ‘hierarchy of needs’ is a useful, simple and highly effective tool to help us understand why we are stuck, and how to move on.  The diagram below shows our needs in order of priority (with our essential requirements shown at the bottom of the pyramid). Unless those most basic of needs are met, we simply cannot reach the higher levels of self-fulfilment.  And once we have reached a level, we may not always remain there. [...]

The human race has evolved over the centuries, living in tribes and to this day, we still need the sense of safety we get from our ‘tribe’ of friends or family. We fear rejection and can find it difficult to cope with being alone. It is so important not to underestimate this profound human need.  Ultimately a feeling of ‘not-belonging’ can lead to a sense of loneliness or inferiority, which in turn can have a direct impact on our self-esteem.  At one point or another we’ve all experienced a desire to fit in and be accepted by others.  It helps us see value [...]